“I don’t think you should have sex with anyone unless you love them,” pop-star Justin Bieber told Rolling Stone in February 2011. The interview continued, “When asked if he believes in abstinence until marriage, Bieber – who is reportedly dating fellow teen star Selena Gomez – seems wary: ‘I think you should just wait for the person you’re…in love with.’”
Should Bieber’s statement cause concern?
There’s a big difference between waiting for that “loving feeling” to have sex, versus committing to love someone for a lifetime – in marriage – before having sex.
The first approach is very risky, but yields temporary satisfaction in the moment.
The second approach is safe, but it requires a firm choice, patience and self-control. In return, however, it brings a deep, intimate satisfaction within the context of a healthy and stable marriage for a lifetime.
The secular music and entertainment industry is a sexual and political minefield for adult artists, much less for kids. Justin is already being asked – and criticized – for his political beliefs, when he probably can’t even tell you why he ate waffles for breakfast.
Bieber’s only a kid, and he’s being swept directly into the center of the extremely profane, hyper-sexualized, violent and self-indulgent culture of R&B. Moreover, Justin’s being “mentored” by the very crude and sexually explicit R&B icon, Usher.
The Bible warns us in 1 Cor. 15:33, “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” Temptation is an ever-present force when people are in the spotlight.
What can you do? Pray hard for these people. Because, as Miley Cyrus and others have discovered, it’s much more difficult to keep your faith in the limelight.
Being young and famous does not destine you to moral failure, but it does mean you need to know where you stand – before you take the stand. NFL football star, Tim Tebow, is proof that it can be done.
Whether or not you like Bieber or R&B-style music, I know Justin’s mother is concerned. And she’s praying for her son’s protection. Shouldn’t we do the same?
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